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The Things We Overlook...

1/10/2021

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I find it fascinating and unfortunate at the same time, the things we overlook, ignore, or don't realize - choices. 

Life goes by so very fast - a term used so often, yet never really understood. Imagine a penny laying on the ground a quarter mile in front of you, on heads...
You are in a sports car going one hundred twenty miles an hour - try reaching down while in that car to pick that penny up. That is how fast life goes by, and that is how quick choices come and go. It seems, more these days than days of the past, that the pace in life and the tug of war between mind, conscience and heart, make it impossible to slow down to make a choice that could potentially be the pinnacle in our lives. 
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Love...
Sitting in a quiet room, no electronics on, no one around, no distractions - the things we overlook, ignore or don't realize in this category can really be altering and a massive tug of war. Your heart could be saying "take that chance", while your mind is completely battling against taking any chance, or you completely ignore both of them because maybe your conscience has built up 
such a massive wall from previous events, so it takes no time for the mind or heart to even think about it. I have found that there are actually many people, these days, that have that automated conscience turned on, always overriding the mind and heart. Some people are always all in, while others are always completely off. Some people overthink this entire category, and then there are some who have their heart always flowing like water down a sink.

But, out of all of these kind of people, and one of these characteristics may be you - who actually hits the pause button, who actually realizes how fast life does go by, who takes the silent time to realize that if you don't take that chance, are you ever going to get that chance again - will you ever see that person again - will you ever meet someone like that person again - or are you just overlooking it?
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Business & Money...
This is DEFINITELY one of those categories that is always ignored, overlooked or not realized. How many people reading this, would love to go back in time to make a different choice based on business, because of what you know now - I almost guarantee everyone would.
If you thought life and love move fast, business is quicker than lightening striking. Every single second of every single day, most people are always thinking about money in some fashion. Whether it is the money they are making, the money they wish they were making, the job that makes them the money, the better job they need to make more money... people are always thinking about business and money. 

The problem is that we typically don't know how to slow down the mind to think about money or business the right way. The conscience has become comfortable with the schedule you have given it for the last 3 months, 6 months, a year... so the conscience will always overlook business and money. 

I believe that heart is the deciding factor in business - if the heart hates it, the mind and conscience are never going to like it. If the heart loves it, then the mind and conscience don't matter because the heart is going to keep on striving. You mind and logic could easily get pissed off because the mind and logic like money, but the heart loves happiness. SO - are you slowing down your mind's time frame to make sure you are looking at everything as a potential opportunity for growth in business, whether it be your business or a business you work for? How often do you make yourself sit in an extremely quiet place, no distractions, and just think very slowly?

Conclusion...

I ask a lot of people this, but always have a hard time applying it to myself:

Whether it is Life, Love or Business - Are you happy where you're at? Are you going to be happy a year, two years, five years... down the road being in the same exact position you are in now? 

If the answer is NO - what are you doing to change the things you are doing now, so that you DO have a different position in the future? Are you still going to be doing that same job you hate when you are 75? Are you still going to be single and all alone at 85, having never been able to share your life with someone because you were indecisive, or your conscience got comfortable with that hundred foot wall? Are you still going to be looking at every day as a struggle in the next twenty years because you did not keep your eyes or heart open to new opportunities?

Make sure you slow down and take advantage of the time you have, DON'T overlook or ignore anything. Let me know what your thoughts are in some comments. Hope you enjoyed. 
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Relationships Suck These Days...

1/5/2021

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I am starting to find that the older you get, the harder it is to meet the right person. Now, there are terms and levels of dating that I am not used to in my mid 40's, like "talking". I find it very interesting that there are females in my age range and older that are actually not interested in finding the one, but would rather "talk". I would think that the older you get, the more you would want to find the right one, because after all, how much time do you really have left?
Apparently, "talking" is just that - talking to people to get to know them better to see if there is interest of any kind, or any kind of connection. But what happens if the initial "talking" takes a sudden leap beyond, at a real fast pace?
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I recently met this amazing lady that works as a bartender in my area. We hit it off really well, and started just "talking" per her request. At almost 46, I really didn't know exactly what this meant until her explanation of getting to know each other. She is a few years older than me, and that really didn't make a difference. She really is a good person with a big heart, and seems to really care about people in general, but this "talking" quickly advanced, ending in - that just really sucked!

The Problem

While this whole talking thing with her really only lasted a few weeks, it was the extent of what all happened in that short amount of time that really screwed with my head, and of course, it all ended bad, otherwise I would not be writing this. In the short time, we ended up on several occasions, hanging out half the night, talking, being intimate many times, all the way to the point that she stayed the night. If you can imagine, we easily surpassed the whole talking stage very, very quickly.

Even though she kept saying that she wanted to take it slow throughout the entire few weeks, even though I tried to assure her that I understood, the actions were very different. There were massive feelings on my part, because I am a Pisces, and that shit happens easily, but I believe the reason it ended so bad, was because I actually started to reach her heart, where she may have had just a touch of feelings, and it actually scared the shit out of her, and made her think I was rushing her.
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There were multiple times throughout the few weeks that I seriously contemplated walking away, she knew it, and asked me plenty of times to NOT walk away - I swore I wouldn't. Then suddenly, out of the blue, she does exactly that - she walked away. I was actually told by her, that "she is too old to settle down", which makes absolutely zero sense to me. ​
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Conclusion

We are no longer talking, to say the least. I am no longer attending my favorite local bar for over a year now - where she works, and things just suddenly died, because she walked away. I find it profoundly unfortunate that the meeting of two can lead to epic proportions in a glimpse of time, only to be ripped away by fear, due to one's inability to recognize the simplest sensual small moments such as holding a hand, which may have been a memory that would have lasted a lifetime, if the smallest piece of heart could be reached. How sad a world we live in where everything is only surface level, because people are actually happy with their voids. The possibility of never waking in the morning with pieces never fixed, because silent misery tends to become a comfortable home - that's just tragic, yet repeated, because some of us take each day, and people we meet, for granted. Fear should never stop you from taking chances - but taking chances can break hearts, spirits, and any future efforts. Yeah, relationships suck these days. 

Let me know your thoughts - feel free to leave your comments. 

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